SCHOOL REFUSAL AND PHOBIAS

Never give up fighting for your children’s rights. 

One young elementary school girl (age 7) wearing school uniform and backpack sitting on a corridor floor crying. Childhood and education concept. copy space

Betty is back to school today, The first day of the new term in school in the UK begins today.

Well not for 50 year old Betty, although she does attend the school of life if that counts. 

However 13 year old Betty woke up today. she is not very well today, she has some kind of virus.

A beautiful destructive virus..

They are very pretty to look at under a microscope, but not so pleasant to carry around with us. 

Betty has ventured to the joint at the top of the garden, even though its raining cats and dogs outside, damn you uk.. she likes to be outside. We weren’t quite sure which Betty woke up this morning, but she wasn’t feeling very well, so we’ve dragged her up to the top of the garden, shoved a joint in her mouth, and out popped me, this Betty, this is the Betty who likes to write, paint, spread happiness wherever she goes, and has a zest for life. She doesn’t care that we probably make no sense to some people, and that is fine, as long as we make sense to ourselves. 

picture by 13 yr old Betty …

Even now after all of these years, school triggers my 13 year old alter, feeling ill, anxious, out of sorts. Luckily I can control my alter with medication. 

And I don’t have to actually leave the house to go to school.

My school is in the joint at the top of the garden, 2 minutes by foot. There I am teacher and student.

For all of those with children who have school refusal or phobia, stay calm, I was a school refuser, my teenager was a school refuser, it does get easier, I won’t lie, it’s a hard battle, but you will do the best you can with the situation you have, your child being happy is more important than school grades, they have the rest of their lives to get those. 

Do what is best for you and your family, if you know in your heart you have tried your best you cannot be judged . 

One lesson I have learned today is, it doesn’t matter what people think of you, it’s how we think about  ourselves that matters. 

My 14 year old ex school refuser starts his new term tomorrow. He is actually looking forward to going back to school, 3 years ago he hadn’t been to school in over a year, due to anxiety and undiagnosed autism. Today he is a happy boy, who has friends, loves rollercoasters, and is loving life. Don’t stress about the small stuff, don’t force your children into school, just because you are told to do so. These children are suffering, they just need help. Don’t beat yourself up about the fact they are not going to school. You can’t be prosecuted if your child is ill. It is the educational departments job to provide an environment where your child feels safe, if they are not meeting this ‘need’ then they need to change the setting in school. My challenges in this situation were many. I have spent more times at school at the age of 50 than I did at 13. How’s that for karma ? But I did it, even having Autism, anxiety, severe depression, and finding out only recently Multiple Personality Disorder, I fought the education system for my child’s rights, and if I can do it, anybody can. 

Don’t stop fighting, our children are the future generation. 

Be true to yourself ..Love and kisses Betty x 

Author: thejointatthetopofthegarden

Hi, my name is Betty Boop (names may have been changed to avoid prosecution . I’m a 50 year grandmother of 4 little beauties and I’m a bit nuts.

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