How not Knowing The Importance of Boundaries Makes You a Rookie.

Today I decided to once and for all, set my personal boundaries.

The neighbours probably thought I was nuts. Standing outside drawing a circle in the soil with a stick.

And then, standing there talking to myself. 

They are probably used to it by now, I do strange things like that frequently.

Recently I have been using colour cards on my spiritual path, and today’s card was the colour Brown. 

I always try to wear something of the colour chosen each day, and then take the advice that the cards give. 

The colour brown indicates the Earth.

Dirt.

And the card explained that I needed to work on my boundaries. 

For 50 years I have had very few boundaries which has in turn, led to me having extremely poor mental health. 

Leaving yourself wide open with no clear personal boundaries is a recipe for disaster.

It has taken me many years to understand the importance of clear boundaries. 

If you do not respect yourself enough, people will take advantage of those unclear boundaries, and you will find yourself running around like a headless chicken, trying to please everybody but yourself. 

It’s easier than I thought it would be. 

Once you get over the fact that you aren’t being selfish, things start to fall into place. 

You are not being selfish by needing to do what makes you happy, it is your birth right. Practice saying no, do it in front of a mirror if you have to. If like me you are a people pleaser, you will find this difficult to do at first, because it goes against that groove that you have been carving for yourself over the years. 

Carve yourself a new groove 

A self love groove, surrounded by boundaries.

Today as I stood inside the muck circle that I had drawn around myself, I set down my new boundaries, I will only allow myself to be treated with the same love, respect, and kindness, that I show to others.

I will treat myself with the same love, respect and kindness that I show to others.

I will say No if my boundaries are not adhered to.

Check your Boundaries today.

let people know your Boundaries, then it is up to them if they want to listen or not.

You can not be responsible for what other people do, only for what you do for yourself.

Carving clear strong and firm Boundaries into your life is a recipe for success.

love Betty x