Why Anger Isn’t Always A Bad Thing.

 

Most of us have gotten angry at some point in our lives. 

Anger is an normal emotion.

Many people believe that anger is a negative emotion, and try to avoid feeling this way. Most people don’t  particularly like feeling angry. It’s uncomfortable, they would rather feel happy instead. 

But what if you couldn’t feel happy ? What if happiness seemed unattainable ? What if you felt that death was the only way out ?

Anger is the emotion that the fight or flight response can produce, when a real threat to life has been recognised.

Anger then becomes a positive response , activating different neurons in an effort to preserve life. 

Anger has helped me to survive. It has kept me alive in a world that has tried its very best to kill me. 

Am I angry ? Damn right I am. 

I have every reason to be. 

Fighting back.. not dead yet !!

Angry Betty has spoken.

Is your anger keeping you alive ? Or are you keeping it alive ? 

Does it have a positive effect for you ? I’d love to hear your thoughts. 

P.S feeling angry doesn’t make you an angry person. 

3 BS Facts About Cannabis and Mental Health Everyone Thinks Are True

This may be a longer post than normal as I tend to become very passionate about certain issues that affect me. You might need to get yourself a coffee if you want to read it to the end.

Cannabis can cause mental health disorders.

Is this a proven fact ? Would these people have developed mental health disorders if they hadn’t used cannabis ? If somebody can actually prove that these mental health disorders would never have developed if the person hadn’t used cannabis, then that would make it a fact. 

Fiction is when a mere opinion that cannabis can cause mental health disorders is voiced. 

Everybody is entitled to an opinion so I always listen to the opinions of others on this subject. 

I have Autism, I like to deal in cold hard facts, when dealing with something as important as the effects of cannabis on my mental health. 

Seeing as I have some of the most severe mental health disorders there are, including complex PTSD, Personality Disorder, severe depression with suicidal ideation, and acute Anxiety, I do like to keep myself up to date on topics concerning mental health.

Since embarking on my journey using Cannabis as a medication to treat my mental health problems, my ears tend to prick up when I hear both topics mentioned in the same sentence.

Everywhere I go I seem to be hearing that cannabis is dangerous for your mental health. 

I watched a YouTube video yesterday  where even Dr Phil was riding along on the curse cannabis train. 

On his video was a young boy who had anger issues, he was smashing up the house, threatening his mom with a knife, and apparrantly all because he was using cannabis. I switched off at this point when I saw that more BS was to follow.

When I was a young girl I was exactly the same. I was angry all of the time, I was in trouble with the police, I was violent, playing truant from school, running away from home, and threatening my mom, and guess what ? I had never even heard of cannabis. 

I grew up in the 70’s, in a tiny village in Newcastle in the UK.

I suffered a lifetime of abuse and trauma without Cannabis, I developed so many mental health disorders over the last 50 years, and guess what ?  All without the use of cannabis. 

I had lived a very unhappy life until I actually found Cannabis.

After a mental health crisis that almost ended my life, cannabis and myself found each other, and I discovered a Miracle.

Cannabis has been my ‘Miracle cure’ for my poor mental health. 

Since starting to use cannabis daily as part of my medication regime, I also take my prescribed antidepressants, I have found myself.

I have found happiness in my life for the first time ever. After 40 years of trying every medication, therapy, and advice known to man. I have finally found something that helps.

Cannabis isn’t going to kill me, although the tobacco might, I’m a non -smoker apart from my one cannabis joint, 2 or 3 times per day.

I like to live as healthily as possible, I rarely take medication apart from my antidepressants. I do not drink alcohol, alcohol is a depressant and when mixed with a depressive personality, it brings out the worst in us. 

I have never touched an illicit drug in my life, and I have always been careful about what chemicals I put into my body. 

I have requested medicinal cannabis from my GP and psychiatrist, and it is always denied. 

There is no scientific proof that cannabis helps those with mental health problems, is the general reply.

I am walking living proof that it does, so why am I, and every other walking, talking, living proof miracles being ignored ?

why are we being refused a medication that is now perfectly legal to prescribe ? 

And Therein lies the answer to the question.

For a few months now I have been wondering why more and more people have started to say that cannabis is dangerous for our mental health. Why won’t GP’s legally prescribe a drug that they can actually see helping their patient ? 

Mental health is big business now in the UK. The amount of people with mental health issues is on the rise, child mental health has seen a nearly 50 % increase in the last few years. 

My teenage son has severe mental health issues and has never been anywhere near a cannabis plant. 

More and more children are being medicated for adhd, anxiety, depression, and numerous other medications are given out daily without a thought. Some of these have very serious side effects, and we are giving them to our children. The pharmaceutical business is Booming.

Cannabis has been around forever, it is a natural plant. It grows in the soil. it is not made in a laboratory, it is totally natural. It has been used for thousands of years.

I remember years ago when the drug style of choice was glue sniffing. Although I never tried it, I was often around people that did. 

People died from glue sniffing, or aerosol sniffing, and not one of those products were ever made illegal, why ?

Eventually Age restrictions were put in place, so that you needed to wait until you were 16 before you could sniff glue or aerosols. 

I have always been against drugs of any kind, until I ignored advice from professionals, and tried cannabis.

All drugs have risks, I have weighed up the pros and cons of my smoking cannabis, against every other medication available for my needs. 

My conclusion has been that this is the least harmful drug around. 

It can cause weight gain, as cannabis increases the appetite, but for me this actually helps with my eating disorders. My responses and reaction times are much slower when using cannabis, and I have given up driving because of this. 

Slowing down my body is good for me, as I can be manic when not using cannabis. 

My brain is slowed down enough that I can keep up with my own thoughts and feelings. 

Living in a constant state of Anxiety is more dangerous than using cannabis, being suicidal is more dangerous than smoking Cannabis.

When anybody asks me what proof I have that cannabis works in a positive way on mental health, I reply, that since taking cannabis I have found true happiness, I have been able to love myself, It has reduce my anxiety levels to zero, it has enabled me to take control of my own mental health, so that I in turn, can help others around me. And last, but by no means least, I no longer want to die. I want to live again. 

I very much doubt that my mental health could get any darker than it was before I met cannabis. 

Cannabis has shown me the light, at the end of a very long dark tunnel. 

Fact 1 ..cannabis causes mental health problems …BULLSHIT !

Fact 2 ..cannabis is dangerous ..BULLSHIT !!

Fact 3 cannabis is a gateway drug .. BULLSHIT !!!

All opinions are my own.

Please speak to your own GP before trying cannabis, there may be contraindications with other prescribed drugs you may be taking. 

Like any new drug, take note of any side effects as they occur. Cannabis can sometimes cause paranoia, if this occurs stop using and try a different strain. 

Do your own research into whether this could be a suitable drug for you.

You may be surprised by what you find.

take care of yourself first, love Betty x

What’s In It For You ?

Like any wannabe successful blogger I want to be successful. 

Success is relative, in my mind I am already a successful blogger because I now have 30 people following my blog on my WordPress site, and around 800 people following my Facebook page. This to me is success, after only 4 months of blogging from scratch, I actually feel like a blogger .

Just because We don’t have hundreds of thousands of followers, or that We’re not making any revenue from blogging doesn’t make us any less of a successful blogger in our own right.

 Most bloggers want to be able to reach as many people as they can with their words, and so begins the drive to create an even bigger audience.

I work daily at trying to grow my blog audience, because I believe that people could actually benefit from what I have to share. 

I am not trying to sell you fake sunglasses, or sign you up for a time share. 

My blog is purely to help, to help me and to help my readers.

So why should you follow my blog ? What’s in it for you ?

Whats in it for you, is what you take away from it. Inspiration, a different perspective on life, insider information about topics that most people have little or no understanding of. You might find humour or empathy in my blogs, you might find spiritual healing, or you might just find something interesting in my stories. 

Having had 50 years of living a life that most people wouldn’t believe was actually possible. I have a vast knowledge of many things, and a differently wired Brain that has processed it all.

My blogs have no niche as such, there is something in them for everyone.

In return I get the inner peace and happiness from knowing I have touched another spirit from my soul tribe.

Today I decided that I would share my daily oracle advice with my readers.

I use oracle cards on my spiritual journey, these cards give individual spiritual advice to the reader on their spiritual path. 

Today I will share my individual advice given from a different energy plane. 

I have never done this before but feel that some of my readers might too benefit as I do from this advice. 

If it works for me then why shouldn’t it work for you.?

This card is telling us that we are all our very own oracle. Everybody is capable of tapping into their own sixth sense, and following their own inner guide.

Your sixth sense may be something that you are unaware of. 

But just because you are not aware of it, this does not mean that it isn’t there. 

This card is saying that we need to focus on raising our vibrations to connect with our sixth sense. 

You already have all of life’s great answers inside of you. All you need is the belief in yourself and an ability to rise your energy vibrations to find these answers.  

You are the oracle, do not look for guidance outside, for you hold all of the wisdom in the entire universe, in every cell of your body. Do not see the angels and guides as above you, but beside you, without you they have no way of communicating, you are the rainbow bridge.

So maybe ‘what is in it for you’ today is only a tiny seed planted in your mind, that continues to grow until you finally become that rainbow bridge too. 

If like me you are already there, say hi, I would love to connect.

Kindness finds kindness eventually, I look forward to connecting with you all love Betty x 

How You Could Benefit From My Ghosts and Ghouls this Hallowe’en

Today I woke as usual around 7 am. 

After suffering from depression most of my life, I am very grateful that I have the opportunity to live another day in a human form. 

We are not human beings, we are spiritual beings living a human life. 

My human journey began with trauma, I was dead at birth, my human journey has been a very traumatic one. Born with Autism, but not diagnosed until the age of 48. 

I suffered child abuse from a very young age, and was raised by 2 narcissistic parents.

I developed a personality disorder, called dissociative identity disorder or multiple personality disorder, as a necessity for my human survival.

I have been totally unaware that I had this disorder until the ripe old age of 50. 

Being psychic too, has put a strain on my physical  and mental health.

After what I class as a near death experience, when I almost took my own life, I stumbled upon my spiritual path.

Spiritual awakening is not about ghosts and ghoulies, although I do see ‘spirits’ I prefer the term energies, and that is a different story altogether.

My spiritual awakening has been the opportunity to see myself for the very first time.

Realising that you are the source of your own happiness, I have found myself at last. 

Today is Halloween, I’ve always been afraid of ghosts and spirits, even though I feel them, see them and hear them, they have terrified me all of my life.

when my brother died 20 years ago at the age of 27, I was convinced he would come back to me at some point, and slept with my head under the blankets for 6 years.

I thought that I was going mad for a very long time. I then convinced myself that everybody hears voices, and I rarely mentioned it to anyone.

having mental health problems and hearing voices, tends to cast a different outlook on my psychic abilities. I am not schizophrenic, that must be a really scary disorder to have. I do not have hallucinations, my eyes are never open when I ‘see’ things, and my predictions are always right.

Although I am mad in the technical sense, the reason that I was so scared of my ability was that I had no control over which energies I engaged with, leaving me wide open to good and bad energies alike.

I decided to work on protecting myself, and to work with my spiritual guides each and every day. 

Because I am a natural empath I absorb other people’s energies. 

When you are not aware of this, you can become seriously depleted in energy yourself.

You become laden down with other people’s negative energies, your own energy field can become blocked, and can carry this blockage around for years without ever knowing. 

We have to protect our own energy fields. 

My daily routine now consists of protecting my energy and raising my vibrations.

A cold shower in a morning invigorates all of the energy in my body.

I use colour cards to chose what colour I need to focus on that day, then choose my wardrobe accordingly. 

I get out for some fresh air, a brisk walk for 20 minutes, then on with general tasks of the day. 

Around lunch time I meditate. 

I use Oracle cards to direct me on my path.

there are lots of cards to choose from but these are my favourite.

I meditate with these cards placed over my heart, and ask them to provide me with insight on my journey.

Today I decided to share my reading with everyone as my spooky contribution to Halloween.

The top card represents my past. Straight away I recognised myself as being the ‘yes’ woman, the ‘go to’ woman, I could never say the word no, except to myself. 

I was a people pleaser, allowing my energy to be used, time and time again. 

The second card is the present, Take a Break. 

This is exactly what I am doing at this moment in time, I have taken a break from the outside world, in order to connect with my own spirituality. 

The final card is the future, 

Dance with life, the title says it all really, I am taking life by hand and leading it onto the dance floor, my spiritual journey is the first dance.

I am looking for my soul tribe to get this dance party started. 

If you feel a connection with me, please contact me, I know you are all out there somewhere, I just need to find you. 

Love Betty x 

What Wikipedia Wont Tell You About UK Government Terrorism.

What Wikipedia Won’t tell you about, is how the UK Government uses a form of Terrorism on its most vulnerable citizens.

When we think of the word terrorism we tend to think of extremists, Bombs and 911.

The Google dictionary definition of the word terrorism is,” The unlawful use of violence and intimidation especially against civilians , in the pursuit of political aims.” 

What Wikepedia says :

I am being terrorised by my own government. 

By a company that is employed by my own government. 

Atos, is a private company that has been contracted by the UK government, to do medical assessments for citizens claiming disability benefits.

They are doing a great job for the government, saving them millions on benefits, and therefore tax payers moneys.

They are achieving this target because they are basically terrorising vulnerable people with mental health disorders, or other hidden disabilities into either committing suicide, or by taking their disability benefit off them if they can’t tick their boxes or perform their ‘Tricks’.

These boxes are not meant to be ticked. Atos do not want these boxes ticked, the government do not want these boxes ticked, Atos want to retain the contract with the government, and the Government want to save money ?  

A Win win situation for both the government and Atos, everybody is happy. 

Apart from the most vulnerable members of society that is. 

The people who rely on their Disability benefit to survive. People with Mental health problems , and other ‘invisible’ illnesses, have become an easy target for the government, as an easy way to save money. 

People with invisible illnesses such as I have, are having to convince Atos that we actually do have an illness. 

They ignore medical records, doctors advice, visible advice, basically any information they have about your illness. Then they have your benefits stopped because you are unable to tick their impossible boxes. They make the rules according to the government.

I have been trying to prove my disabilities to Atos for around 7 years now.

Atos don’t want to hear any evidence that proves you have a hidden disability. They just want to be able to stop your benefit, so that they can show good savings to the government, and keep their contract with them. it is a business deal.

The Government are aware that Atos are doing this, but when challenged say they can’t help, it is now in the hands of Atos. 

Three months ago at the ripe old age of 50 my life was no longer worth living, I realised that nobody actually believed what I was saying, I was never going to be able to survive without my benefit so what was the point. I had been fighting for too long. 

I had been suffering in silence for too long, and this was the final straw. 

After a disastrous face to face assessment, my mind finally broke once and for all.

I came very close to taking my own life, due to the harassment of these people, and the fact that I was never going to be able to tick their boxes, and I knew I wouldn’t be able to survive without financial assistance.

I am a single parent to an Autistic teenager, I am unable to work because of my disabilities, how else would I survive? This is not a choice that I have made, I have no choice in the matter, if I could choose, do you really think I would put my life at the mercy of other people ?

Tick all of our boxes, or we will cut off your financial life line. 

It is bullying tactics, pure and simple. These people, contracted by our Government, are terrorising vulnerable people who are their lowest point. 

Thankfully I managed to escape my near death experience, and decided to try to live again, but this time on my own terms. 

For 50 years, I have been let down by a society who say they care.

I don’t blame society because they don’t know any better. This is a problem I have decided to tackle, to help make people more kinder to one another.

Although I have every right to feel let down by a Society that has allowed unthinkable things to happen to me, as a child, and the all through my adult life. I still feel that things can be done.

Slowly I am trying to rebuild my life from the Bricks that society has thrown at me.

But apparently Society hasn’t finished with me quite yet, they want to kill me again because they didn’t succeed the last time.

Atos have now decided that, although they couldn’t possibly have an more information that they have right now, even the fact that I nearly committed suicide less than 12 weeks ago, and could unintentionally be a danger to any persons I perceive to be a threat, is still not good enough, and I require a further face to face assessment, 12 weeks after my previous one.

I am being Terrorised because of the hidden disabilities I have, that were caused by the very same society that has terrorised me all of my life.

Terrorism comes in many shapes and forms, I am speaking up for all of those people that our government has let down, and are still letting down, and who cannot speak up for themselves.

What kind of society are we ? where we allow our most vulnerable to be Terrorised in their own homes.

Where our Government endorses this Terrorism just to save money.

If they hadn’t spent so much on Brexit then maybe I would have been allowed to keep my benefits, but the money has to come from somewhere, and it isn’t always coming from where you think.

Stand up and be counted…because,

Every Mind Matters love Betty x

How not Knowing The Importance of Boundaries Makes You a Rookie.

Today I decided to once and for all, set my personal boundaries.

The neighbours probably thought I was nuts. Standing outside drawing a circle in the soil with a stick.

And then, standing there talking to myself. 

They are probably used to it by now, I do strange things like that frequently.

Recently I have been using colour cards on my spiritual path, and today’s card was the colour Brown. 

I always try to wear something of the colour chosen each day, and then take the advice that the cards give. 

The colour brown indicates the Earth.

Dirt.

And the card explained that I needed to work on my boundaries. 

For 50 years I have had very few boundaries which has in turn, led to me having extremely poor mental health. 

Leaving yourself wide open with no clear personal boundaries is a recipe for disaster.

It has taken me many years to understand the importance of clear boundaries. 

If you do not respect yourself enough, people will take advantage of those unclear boundaries, and you will find yourself running around like a headless chicken, trying to please everybody but yourself. 

It’s easier than I thought it would be. 

Once you get over the fact that you aren’t being selfish, things start to fall into place. 

You are not being selfish by needing to do what makes you happy, it is your birth right. Practice saying no, do it in front of a mirror if you have to. If like me you are a people pleaser, you will find this difficult to do at first, because it goes against that groove that you have been carving for yourself over the years. 

Carve yourself a new groove 

A self love groove, surrounded by boundaries.

Today as I stood inside the muck circle that I had drawn around myself, I set down my new boundaries, I will only allow myself to be treated with the same love, respect, and kindness, that I show to others.

I will treat myself with the same love, respect and kindness that I show to others.

I will say No if my boundaries are not adhered to.

Check your Boundaries today.

let people know your Boundaries, then it is up to them if they want to listen or not.

You can not be responsible for what other people do, only for what you do for yourself.

Carving clear strong and firm Boundaries into your life is a recipe for success.

love Betty x

Why Cannabis and Spirituality Will Change Your life.

A few months ago my life almost ended. I was suicidal, and close to the edge.

I started using cannabis to control my mental health issues, and 

suddenly I found myself on a completely different journey.

My own Spiritual Path. 

Gone were my demons, and in their place were spiritual helpers.

I have always been spiritual, but had become so bogged down in my depression and anxiety that I could not find my way home.

Cannabis has allowed me to relax, to release my demons. It has allowed me to calm my mind. It has allowed me to be able to meditate for the first time since I was a small child, when I used to do it without even knowing that this is what I was doing, or the reasons behind it.

Meditation has allowed me to find myself again, and to be at peace for the first time in my life.

Cannabis and spirituality combined have been my ticket to happiness. 

I am so pleased that I finally got the golden ticket.

Im like a kid in a sweet shop, and I have never been happier.. love Betty x