You Can lead a Dog To Water but You Can’t Make it Drink

There’s an old saying that goes ‘You Can Lead a Horse to Water but you can’t make it drink.’

This has rang true throughout my week, so today I put it to the test. 

I don’t have a horse but I do have a dog. I led my dog to the water but I could not for the life of me, make her drink it

Yesterday my teenage son was feeling unwell, Sam hates feeling unwell, but will not take medication of any kind. 

Sam has Autism, he believes that nothing works so what is the point. 

so I decide to try a new tactic, and ran a bath full of healing essential oils, for his nausea and headache. 

I tell him the bath will help him feel better. Sam doesn’t want a bath though, even if it means that getting into it might make him feel better, he still won’t do it. 

‘You can lead a Sam to healing water, but you can’t make him get in it.’

My final thought on the subject came today when I finally came out, after 40 years, as being a child sex abuse survivor to my family. 

Nobody wants to believe it, denial is rife, you can lead the people to the truth, but you can’t make them believe it.  

Be your own truth, people don’t always see what is staring them in the face.

You are not responsible for what other people believe. 

How not Knowing The Importance of Boundaries Makes You a Rookie.

Today I decided to once and for all, set my personal boundaries.

The neighbours probably thought I was nuts. Standing outside drawing a circle in the soil with a stick.

And then, standing there talking to myself. 

They are probably used to it by now, I do strange things like that frequently.

Recently I have been using colour cards on my spiritual path, and today’s card was the colour Brown. 

I always try to wear something of the colour chosen each day, and then take the advice that the cards give. 

The colour brown indicates the Earth.

Dirt.

And the card explained that I needed to work on my boundaries. 

For 50 years I have had very few boundaries which has in turn, led to me having extremely poor mental health. 

Leaving yourself wide open with no clear personal boundaries is a recipe for disaster.

It has taken me many years to understand the importance of clear boundaries. 

If you do not respect yourself enough, people will take advantage of those unclear boundaries, and you will find yourself running around like a headless chicken, trying to please everybody but yourself. 

It’s easier than I thought it would be. 

Once you get over the fact that you aren’t being selfish, things start to fall into place. 

You are not being selfish by needing to do what makes you happy, it is your birth right. Practice saying no, do it in front of a mirror if you have to. If like me you are a people pleaser, you will find this difficult to do at first, because it goes against that groove that you have been carving for yourself over the years. 

Carve yourself a new groove 

A self love groove, surrounded by boundaries.

Today as I stood inside the muck circle that I had drawn around myself, I set down my new boundaries, I will only allow myself to be treated with the same love, respect, and kindness, that I show to others.

I will treat myself with the same love, respect and kindness that I show to others.

I will say No if my boundaries are not adhered to.

Check your Boundaries today.

let people know your Boundaries, then it is up to them if they want to listen or not.

You can not be responsible for what other people do, only for what you do for yourself.

Carving clear strong and firm Boundaries into your life is a recipe for success.

love Betty x

Why Cannabis and Spirituality Will Change Your life.

A few months ago my life almost ended. I was suicidal, and close to the edge.

I started using cannabis to control my mental health issues, and 

suddenly I found myself on a completely different journey.

My own Spiritual Path. 

Gone were my demons, and in their place were spiritual helpers.

I have always been spiritual, but had become so bogged down in my depression and anxiety that I could not find my way home.

Cannabis has allowed me to relax, to release my demons. It has allowed me to calm my mind. It has allowed me to be able to meditate for the first time since I was a small child, when I used to do it without even knowing that this is what I was doing, or the reasons behind it.

Meditation has allowed me to find myself again, and to be at peace for the first time in my life.

Cannabis and spirituality combined have been my ticket to happiness. 

I am so pleased that I finally got the golden ticket.

Im like a kid in a sweet shop, and I have never been happier.. love Betty x